Take my .extremely.professional. quiz and find out what Coping-Cop-Out you identify the most with!
1. You have forgotten to complete your share for an apartment clean check for three consecutive weeks now and a roommate confronts you about it. Do you...
A. Say that you know you haven't done this weeks, but it is extremely rude and completely untrue that you haven't done a clean check in three weeks.
B. Acknowledge that they brought up an extremely valid point, but you were just leaving to take a test and promise to talk about it later with them when you have more time.
C. Explain to them that you not completing your clean check is not your fault because your teachers have really been pounding you
2. Your mom called you while you're away to college last night to inform you that your favorite cat was accidentally ran over by the next door neighbor's car. Your response would be....
A. Don't believe her because your next door neighbor is an extremely cautious driver, and would never run over a cat.
B. Respond in a casual fashion then change the topic thinking that you will deal with it when you're home next break.
C. Proceed to complain about your next door neighbor and how they are such a terrible person for running over your beloved cat for the next couple of weeks.
3. You lost your job unexpectedly six weeks for Christmas. Your reaction would be..
A. Buy Christmas presents anyways because this wont effect you.
B. Avoid Christmas parties and get togethers because you don't want to have to explain to people that you couldn't bring a present because you didn't want to admit quite yet that you lost your job.
C. You call everyone you know to tell them about how your co-worker got you fired.
4. One day you come home from shopping to find the fire department outside your house finishing putting out a fire. The inside of your house is entirely scorched. Someone informs you that the cause of the fire was an electrical problem that you've been asking your husband to fix for weeks. Your first thought is to...
A. Try to wake yourself up from this nightmare because something like this would never happen to you in real life.
B. Go over to a friend's house and talk about the weather until it is absolutely the latest you can stay away from your house.
C. Call up your husband and tell him off because if he had listened to you three weeks ago, this never would have happened!
5. Your sister comes to you in private and informs you that she and her husband are about to file for divorce. Your response would be...
A. You and your husband? Never! You guys work so well together! I don't believe it's come to this!
B. You tell her you sympathize for her, and you will help her in anyway you can, but you can't really get in the middle of this because don't want to become the middle man in a divorce.
C. You begin to ask questions about how he screwed up the marriage. You know he always did seem like the divorce-ish type, it was only a matter of time that he was going to mess things up.
If you answered mostly A. Then you are a Deny-er. The best way for you to not deal with a problem is to deny it real. If the problem isn't there, then there is nothing to worry about.
If you answered mostly B. Then you are an Avoid-er. The best way for you to not deal with problems is to just avoid them. If you aren't there to deal with the problem, then you'll never have to solve it.
If you answered mostly C. Then you are a Blame-er. The best way for you to not deal with problems is to blame all your problems on some other cause. If it's someone else who is responsible for all your problems then you don't have to worry about solving them- they do.
Moral of the story is: Cop outs will get you no where. They prolong, deepen, and magnify a simple conflict. If you take responsibility in the beginning and decide to take charge, it will be easier and faster to move on with your life.
Harder to do.
But better in the long run.
1. You have forgotten to complete your share for an apartment clean check for three consecutive weeks now and a roommate confronts you about it. Do you...
A. Say that you know you haven't done this weeks, but it is extremely rude and completely untrue that you haven't done a clean check in three weeks.
B. Acknowledge that they brought up an extremely valid point, but you were just leaving to take a test and promise to talk about it later with them when you have more time.
C. Explain to them that you not completing your clean check is not your fault because your teachers have really been pounding you
2. Your mom called you while you're away to college last night to inform you that your favorite cat was accidentally ran over by the next door neighbor's car. Your response would be....
A. Don't believe her because your next door neighbor is an extremely cautious driver, and would never run over a cat.
B. Respond in a casual fashion then change the topic thinking that you will deal with it when you're home next break.
C. Proceed to complain about your next door neighbor and how they are such a terrible person for running over your beloved cat for the next couple of weeks.
3. You lost your job unexpectedly six weeks for Christmas. Your reaction would be..
A. Buy Christmas presents anyways because this wont effect you.
B. Avoid Christmas parties and get togethers because you don't want to have to explain to people that you couldn't bring a present because you didn't want to admit quite yet that you lost your job.
C. You call everyone you know to tell them about how your co-worker got you fired.
4. One day you come home from shopping to find the fire department outside your house finishing putting out a fire. The inside of your house is entirely scorched. Someone informs you that the cause of the fire was an electrical problem that you've been asking your husband to fix for weeks. Your first thought is to...
A. Try to wake yourself up from this nightmare because something like this would never happen to you in real life.
B. Go over to a friend's house and talk about the weather until it is absolutely the latest you can stay away from your house.
C. Call up your husband and tell him off because if he had listened to you three weeks ago, this never would have happened!
5. Your sister comes to you in private and informs you that she and her husband are about to file for divorce. Your response would be...
A. You and your husband? Never! You guys work so well together! I don't believe it's come to this!
B. You tell her you sympathize for her, and you will help her in anyway you can, but you can't really get in the middle of this because don't want to become the middle man in a divorce.
C. You begin to ask questions about how he screwed up the marriage. You know he always did seem like the divorce-ish type, it was only a matter of time that he was going to mess things up.
If you answered mostly A. Then you are a Deny-er. The best way for you to not deal with a problem is to deny it real. If the problem isn't there, then there is nothing to worry about.
If you answered mostly B. Then you are an Avoid-er. The best way for you to not deal with problems is to just avoid them. If you aren't there to deal with the problem, then you'll never have to solve it.
If you answered mostly C. Then you are a Blame-er. The best way for you to not deal with problems is to blame all your problems on some other cause. If it's someone else who is responsible for all your problems then you don't have to worry about solving them- they do.
Moral of the story is: Cop outs will get you no where. They prolong, deepen, and magnify a simple conflict. If you take responsibility in the beginning and decide to take charge, it will be easier and faster to move on with your life.
Harder to do.
But better in the long run.
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